Look what I found!!

There used to be so many occasions when we would disagree on what treatments to go for, what therapies to choose, whether we want to try a special diet or set some money aside for a sensory room and several other “this or that” debates. Since none of the choices are bad and none of these are a panacea, it was always a bone of contention when we got down to what we want to try next on Vedant in our constant effort to  “fix” him Finally I realized that parenting is not a competition, it’s a collaboration and we both have good intentions and wish well for our son. It’s not going to be my only chance to try things. Unfortunately, Autism gives you plenty of opportunities to try out new things so both of us would get a chance to try the treatment of your choice. There will be so many issues where we would want to prove ourselves right and in doing so cause stress in our relationship. It took some “inner strength” to accept that sometimes my sweet hubby might have a better idea or opinion but it was really an investment in happiness once I learned to accept this. Most of the arguments in a family of a kid with special needs is about the hows and what’s of your child’s day-to-day and without both the parents working together, no good is going to come out of it and the only person who was supposed to gain from all this is probably going to suffer because of an ego clash between the parents. I still tend to get upset every now and then when I lose an argument/discussion but I’ve successfully been able to cut down on the frequency of that long face popping up when we could be doing something better.